Making Space to Grow

Making Space to Grow Roses

If you are a gardener, you know that roses, like many plants, require plenty of space to grow. This requires you to thin the stalks in early spring so the remaining ones have plenty of room for light, water, and growth. This makes for not only healthy and hearty roses, (resilient), but also beautiful, as you can see by this photo taken of our first blossoms last week.

My partner Neil, (the real gardener in the family) prunes the rose bushes when I am away because I am so resistant to thinning them. I always want to have as many blooms as possible and after the pruning, the bush looks so barren, I feel like I have lost some opportunity. I seem to face the same resistance in my schedule…

It’s Saturday morning and I want to walk the dog, take a yoga class, plant flowers, clean the house, and get a pedicure before I get ready for a luncheon I still need to make an appetizer for… Does this sound remotely familiar?  Trying to fit in as much as you can, focused on how much you have to do and the little time you have to do it? This inevitably crowds my blooms and leaves me frustrated, resentful, and anxious. 

In order for us to be our most happy, healthy, and resilient, we need to make space to grow which sometimes means pruning the volume of activity scheduled. More is not always more. Sometimes less is more.

But what blooms to give up? While everything can feel important, there are a few things that are most important. Ask yourself, What is most important in this moment? And then be extra generous with the time you allot because everything takes longer than you think.

So I skipped my yoga class and practiced at home, postponed my pedicure and planting flowers, and spent my morning on a lovely walk, tidied the most critical parts of the house, made a lovely appetizer for the party—and actually enjoyed it all! I arrived at the party refreshed and renewed instead of rushed and resentful.

Like our rose bushes, to create your brightest, healthiest, and happiest self, you can prune your number of activities and to-dos to give yourself space to blossom and grow in your life. This is resilience.


  1. Martha Ellinwood on June 5, 2018 at 12:43 pm

    Wonderful message- excellent analogy! Love your first roses!! Thank you!

    • Diane Sieg on June 5, 2018 at 3:51 pm

      Thank you Martha! Hoping you will make some space for your transition.

  2. Gwen Roe on June 5, 2018 at 2:44 pm

    Great message to do some instead of everything! Feel more rested and actually have some fun, wonderful!

    • Diane Sieg on June 5, 2018 at 3:50 pm

      Yes, Gwen! So simple, but we seem to need this reminder.

  3. Sarah Luey on June 5, 2018 at 8:10 pm

    Great message! And beautiful roses! The irises you and Neil gave me are blooming like crazy. Thank you!

    • Diane Sieg on June 5, 2018 at 8:15 pm

      Thanks Sarah! Happy to hear about your iris blooms.

  4. Judy O'Brien on June 6, 2018 at 3:19 pm

    Your message is timely, as always. Who knew retirement could be so “overbooked”? I will work on doing less and enjoying more. ❤️❤️❤️

    • Diane Sieg on June 7, 2018 at 12:59 am

      Hi Judy! Funny, but I hear that alot! NOW is the time to take charge of your schedule!!!!

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